I was trying to think of the last time I did "apartment living". Probably in the early 1980s. I've lived alone since then, but never in an apartment or condo. Four and a half months in, random thoughts on apartment living and my new apartment:
1. I was worried about the living below part. Unlike Deb over at the Widow Badass Blog however, I have not had a herd of elephants above (although they have opened some sections that allow children living and staying). Just the occasional flush and vacuum.
2. I chose a patio that faced into the courtyard rather than out to open space for security But it's kept my sanity and social life, because I can sit on the patio and knit or read and talk to people safely as they walk by on the sidewalk. I did not choose the north facing side, but since I cannot grow green living things under perfect conditions, I figure that I'll be comfortable the five months everyone else is sweltering and putting up those shade screens.
3. The size is perfect for me, but I would not want to go any smaller than the 875 feet unless it was part of a larger home and yard (as it will be eventually). Also the second bedroom is smaller than it looked-perfect for a studio but not also a guest room. Not a problem as my daughter lives twenty minutes away and when I upgrade to that coral sofa it will be a sleeper.
4. It's so nice to literally have to do nothing maintenance wise and be able to clean your abode in an hour. Lightbulb changes, you name it. You type and they come. I have a small tool kit but it only gets used for thing like hanging pictures. I don't even own on the normal tools of house use.
5. I have a blog post coming about retirement helpers and home apartment "aging in place" changes. For now let's just say that while for now I don't need them (and don't plan to for awhile), it's nice to know these apartments were officially planned with aging in place in mind (people are here from 45 to one hundred plus,so a wide differential of abilities and such). My apartment has levered door handles all the way around, grab bars all over the bath room and the kitchen cabinets are designed lower so that I can reach the top shelf without climbing.
6. Speaking of which, there is a 101 year old gal named Lucille who lives on the second floor. She can still go up and down the stairs on her own (although she can't walk further without her Rollator, so she generally takes the elevator). She also brought me lunch the other day-potato soup, cheese and bread and ham and fruit. We all want to be her.
7. Every community has the nosy one who enforces the rules, and I have a mainly kind and funny version living down the way. The one who puts little signs up reminding dog owners to pick up their poop and goes looking for the rolling cart we share (I need to buy my own) for bringing groceries from car to apartment if it's not returned in a timely manner.
8. I love that everything except electric (which includes heat) is included in my monthly community bill (yea, I know I'm still paying water and taxes and all that good stuff). I don't need to think about property taxes or any other living related expenses as such. Two bills and that's it, baby.
9. I'm not a paranoid person. I go out by myself at night, I travel alone day and night, I've lived alone in an apartment, I go to cities (day and night) alone. Still, proximity tends to be security. Between people asking how you are doing and where you've been, having a gated well lit community and having regular police car rounds, my safety factor is pretty high.
10. Last but not least...For now, considering covid, my proximity and relationship with DD and SIL is pretty good. She's an essential worker and works lots of hours, and they get little together alone time. But I'm seeing them weekly, and then come and do whatever I ask when I ask (which I try not to abuse too terribly much). My daughter is a micro manager even from afar, and she works just up the road!
11.(Added after the other ten). I love, love, love the thought that once things move towards normal, all I need to do to this house is make sure I lock up behind me and that the thermostat is at a happy medium. No shutting off any thing, extra security or anything else-other than perhaps the mail. Be it for a drive, an overnight, or two weeks.
PS: By now everyone has heard about our Great Leader's decision. I'm one hundred percent in favor of all businesses opening at a capacity they think they can handle. As for the idiotic mask and distancing cancellation, businesses seem to have picked up the slack. Our local FB group has a list of which businesses will still still require and use and it looks like I can go to Kroger and Target and most of my smaller local establishments with safety as I feel more brave in doing that. Wish I believed that would be true everywhere in the state-we'll see.